Being A Bridesmaid: What Expenses To Expect

Bridesmaid expenses

I was asked to be in a wedding as a bridesmaid when I was 19. I was excited to participate, and gleefully said “Yes!” without much thought. At the time I was in college and living independently from my parents, without any financial assistance from them. I realized a day or two after accepting that I would have to figure out how to pay to participate, but I wasn’t even sure what all would be included. I recently was talking with a friend who just recently got asked to be a bridesmaid for the first time. She wasn’t sure how to politely ask the bride what expenses she should expect, so she asked me because she knew I was going to be in my sister’s wedding this summer. I thought I would share in a blog post. Of course, sometimes the details vary from one wedding to the next. However, I think it’s very typical for bridesmaids to be expected to pay for the following things.

Being a bridesmaid what does it cost

  • Their dress. Most of the dresses at the bridal shop that we went to were between $100 and $200, with full length dresses being the more expensive ones, and knee or tea-length ones being closer to $150 or less.
  • Their shoes. Sometimes the bride will just say a color or a style (such as white heels) but in other cases they may want the party to match exactly and may ask you to buy a specific set of shoes. Of course, cost can vary dramatically.
  • Jewelry or accessories. In the weddings I’ve been in there has never been specific requirements for jewelry so each bridesmaid can choose her own making price dependent on your choices.
  • Updo/hair. It’s common for the bride to choose a spa or hair salon and for all of the bridesmaids to go get their hair done at that location, so the price will vary depending on their selection. I’ve went to low-to-mid range hair salons (where haircuts are $15-$20) and those types of salons usually do wedding updos for around $40.
  • Makeup or other spa services. More casual weddings may skip this step, where others will prefer that bridesmaids have their makeup, manicures, pedicures, eyebrow waxing, etc done professionally. If so, the cost is usually paid for by the individual bridesmaids.

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  • Bridal shower and wedding gifts. This cost will vary depending on what you purchase. In one wedding I was part of the bride had several showers (one for each side of the family, and one for friends) and some of the bridesmaids provided a gift at every shower, plus the wedding. So cost could add-up quickly that way.
  • Travel expenses. You will usually have to get yourself to and from the wedding, shower, spa, etc. If the wedding is not near your home this could add up quickly.
  • Bachelorette party. At least expenses for your own dinner, drinks, etc. Though it’s also common for the bridesmaid to split the cost for taking the bride out as a gift to her.
  • Bridal shower hosting costs. Sometimes the bridal or wedding shower is hosted by parents of the bride or groom, but in other cases the bridesmaids host it. If the bridesmaids host it then they would most likely divide the cost of the food, decorations, etc.

In your experience as a bride or as a bridesmaid, what expenses did the bridesmaids pick up?

 

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This post currently has 11 responses.

  • Jeanine Carlson

    Holy smokes, I had no idea there were so many costs involved! I never expected all of those things when I got married. Things have definitely changed!

  • This article was perfect for me! I had no idea what to expect.

  • Peggy Nunn

    Wow, I never thought of it beyond the cost of the dress. This could be a big deal for ladies of modest means.

  • Jessica W.

    This sounds about right! It’s good to let future bridesmaids know what to expect.

  • Susan Hartman

    My daughter was in several wedding parties over the last 10 years or so and thats about right. Some brides were merciful by being more low keyed but not always.

  • ellen beck

    I have never been a bridesmaid because frankly I knew I couldnt afford to do so. It is one of my regrets in saying no to a few, but it happens. Some weddings are crazy expensive and brides have no mercy. I know they want everything just so, but need to be practical. Personally, we got married at the courthouse over 30+ years ago, saved our money and threw a party in our hometown maybe 4 months after for our friends. Some gave gifts, but it wasnt expected.
    This is a great post to those on the younger side what to expect for sure!

  • Shawna

    I have been a bridesmaid before, but the bride was frugal and she was able to have a beautiful wedding without it costing too much and I really didn’t have much expenses. I did need to pay for the travel expenses, but I drove and then stayed with a friend. The biggest expense for me was the dress and shoes. I did my own hair and makeup. I have many friends who have been bridesmaids and yes, it can get expensive and I think many people don’t realize that before they say yes to being a bridesmaid. Great blog post you wrote here explaining this.

  • Michelle S

    I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times already and the prices can really vary. I tried to keep costs down for my wedding. I gave the girls their jewelry as their gift. No special shoes, just black. No set way to do there hair or makeup. Ironically, they all decided to french braid with baby breath. I also paid for the material for their dresses; they paid to have them made (only $60).

  • Lauryn R

    This is a very informative post, thank you so much for sharing! I have been to a couple of weddings, but never been in one before. It does seem like a intimidating (and expensive) experience!

  • hannah

    I think it’s a little ridiculous how much bridesmaids have to pay for. It’s not like they get anything out of the wedding! It’s ok to ask her to pay for the dress, but all those other expenses add up fast! It could easily cost $500 not including transportation.

  • Terra Heck

    You’re right, it’s more than just saying yes! My 23 yoa daughter recently found this out when she agreed to be a bridesmaid and realized it’s going to cost her quite a bit.

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